I had a very non-traditional wedding proposal and I will never forget that day. It was late afternoon, my husband and I were sitting on the floor in my bedroom. I was thumbing through a fashion magazine and he said something and I looked up and a black velvet box came flying through the air and I caught it! I opened up the box and a big diamond was inside! Not too bad but….
The sparkly round-shaped diamond was not my first choice. I really wanted a heart-shaped diamond but thought after awhile that it would be kinda “kiddy” looking lol. I will admit, I was extremely picky and I got all kind of opinions from friends and family members when I was shopping around for a wedding ring. Lots of times tearing out photos or taking pics of rings sending it to my hubby. People kept saying, “let him pick it out, let him surprise you!” But see, they didn’t know my husband lol. They kept saying, “you’re taking the fun out of it, if you know what its going to look like!” I heard all kinds of feedback but at the end of the day, I wanted a ring that I could look at EVERY single day of MY life lol. When you’re on the outside looking in, you can give your opinion but it’s NOT you that has to wear a fugly ring or something you really don’t want. I told my husband from the beginning of our relationship, save up please. If it takes you two years to buy me a ring, then do just that. I comforted him saying, “I’m not going anywhere trust me, I will be around.”
My mom and my bestie agreed with me that you should have what you really want when a guy places a ring on your finger. They should know your taste and if they don’t, they should ask a close friend/relative what you like. I have overheard and seen the looks on many of my friends’ faces when they got engaged and most were not happy with their mates ring choice. They would always shy away or look very embarrassed when they would show their ring. One of my friends got a ring from Rent-A-Center and she found out when they called her to get it back because her husband fell behind on the payments! See, now mam, and thats a true story! I didn’t want to be that girl and unfortunately, lots of those same friends are divorced now. I’m not saying that they got divorced because of the ring, but hmm you never know.
I did ask my husband lots of questions as far as what he wanted too. He wanted diamonds as well and I bought just that. He has five diamonds going across his wedding band just like mine, set in gold. I have a total of three rings I’m wearing. The engagement ring, wedding band and a diamond eternity band. So I’m extremely happy with the choice. I’m not a fan of white gold or platinum, which was all the rage in 1998, it just didn’t look good on my skin tone, so I opted out for a gold setting which seems to be making a come back.
After all the hoopla over picking out a ring 16 years ago, I hardly remember to put my rings on now. It’s not on purpose, I just forget or I don’t wear it because my weight fluctuates and makes the rings spin around on my finger, which is very annoying. I’m always nervous I’m going to lose them. Next week is our 16th year wedding anniversary. I’m so grateful for many things with Mr. Reed but most of all its not about material things, I’m just glad that we are still together. Do you agree or did you let him pick out your wedding ring? What is your dream wedding ring or did you get it? Till next time! xoxo
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