I was watching 2 very moving videos today about women and dating and it made me want to write this post.I’m not really the type to talk about my relationship with my hubby but I do mention him time to time on twitter, jokingly. Most times he is right there with me while I twitter, laughing with me and he says, no say it like this. Did you read that everyone? My hubby and I have a fun relationship and we communicate very well. Thats why we are still going strong 12 years later!
I will never forget the day when I introduced my family to my, husband to be. My mom frowned her face up and my sister immediately ran to the window to see what kind of car he was driving lol. I was known back in the day to date nothing but “ballers” or attractive men. My mom and sister were shocked when my soon to be hubby walked threw the door.My girlfriends also said, wow Tami he looks broke! That’s not going to last at all because we know you girl, you date nothing but Doctors, Lawyers,NBA Players and NFL players and so on.
The thing about it, I was tired! After you get your feelings stomp on over and over again, it’s time to throw in the towel! Who wants to be crying all the time or doing drive by’s late at night? Blowing up their cell phones or doing pop corn visits to see if they are with someone else. Usually that was the case when I was in the dating world. The guys would lie and cheat so much because they had the money and power to do and date every tom dick and harry as they pleased and who cared about my feelings.
One day I just woke and looked at myself in the mirror and decided, I wasn’t going to live like that anymore. I wanted to change the way I looked at men, what kind of car they drove,how much money was in their account,their beacon score, etc. Once I stopped looking for material things, my hubby came along. No my hubby wasn’t the kinda guy that I would normally date but he had POTENTIAL. I use that word strongly because this is what alot of single girls don’t see in men now a days.
I hear my girlfriends rant and rave about how they cant find anyone but when I see the guys they date,I see why they have problems! Another thing is most african american women standards are way too high. I was one of them, so I can talk lol. My male friends had to be a certain height, no kids and a list of other things. So once I came to the realization that I was being a snooty booty, I checked myself quick!
No my husband does not work for a fortune five hundred company, he is not a baller or any of that stuff. He is just an average guy that loves me and our family to death. I’m so glad that I figured it out quickly that I was looking for the wrong things. Ladies if you are reading this,it may be a great guy out there that is a diamond in the rough,give him a chance. I’m a living witness to this. It may be a guy from college or high school that you won’t give the time of day to, but really think about that person again. It may be true love, I found it and you can too!
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